Now I Don’t Know How I’ll Do It, But I’ll Get It

I don’t know what I’m going to do to get out of this pothole in which I find myself trapped. Life sometimes fills the crossroads with fog and even makes me think and feel that the world may end tomorrow. However, I know that this feeling is the result of a blindness caused by all those negative emotions and thoughts that approach me. Inside, I know for a fact that I will get out of all this. Because I have felt this way other times, because I have already achieved it other times.

There are many situations that now, with perspective, give me the feeling of having surpassed myself too much considering the danger that they really posed. In those moments, the greatest drama that existed was the one that I recreated in my mind. However, there are still many beliefs and points of view that I have to review and in which I have to somehow find calm.

Endings are always new beginnings

The endings are terrifying. That sadness that approaches us when our favorite series or book ends, that fear that invades us at the possibility of breaking up with a relationship and destroying the idea of ​​love for life causes in us a feeling that we seek to avoid at all costs.

However, this also prevents us from making decisions that would benefit us. For example, it is not negative to break a relationship to which in reality nothing unites us beyond memories; a relationship that in the present may even be doing us a lot of damage. However, we believe the opposite and we maintain our position, sheltered by a false sense of fidelity to the other, while we betray ourselves.

Sometimes breaking or leaving something behind is not a decision we can make. Sometimes, it is circumstances that force us to close a cycle and also do so without giving us the option to delay that moment. This is a serious blow to us. Well, we are not prepared for this and it is not something that we really want.

We consider everything that is lasting, eternal and safe to be good, to the contrary as negative. This is how they have taught us since we were little, which has caused in us that tendency to become attached to different objects, situations and people. That is why it is so difficult for us to let go, let go and make decisions that involve a full stop.

The endings close a cycle, it’s true. Stages that come to an end and have no turning back. The tape cannot be rewound, there is no possibility that the past will be present again. However, we are not aware that every end also implies a beginning : our fear blinds this reality. If something ends, this is an excellent opportunity to think about traveling new trails with the strength that that experience has given us.

When life gets tough we can break down but not give up

Let us discard those beliefs in which it is affirmed that every end is the materialization of a failure. This brings us nothing but frustration and great anguish that paralyzes us and prevents us from pulling forward. It damages our self-esteem, thinking that in us there is a kind of black magic with enough force to finish any project that is worthwhile.

We have a greater resistance than we think, an ability to gain momentum from the bottom of which sometimes our forgetfulness gives a good account. There are many moments in the past when we felt that everything was over for us, but when we least expected it, new opportunities arose.

It hurts to end a situation in which we have been happy, that has given us so many good moments. We “get used to” the security that routines provide us. What is not out of the ordinary and that makes us feel comfortable and with the certainty that everything will be fine.

We are very used to our comfort zone: warm, placid, friendly. We feel very comfortable in it, but there also comes a time when staying too long in it is a stagnation. In addition, no matter how safe we ​​want to be, adversities, problems and difficulties will always be waiting to put us to the test.

So at this point I am sure that I will be able to see the most unpleasant circumstances as an opportunity and not as a misfortune. Because after avoiding various situations in which I had to make decisions, sooner or later I will find myself in a dead end in which, yes or yes, I will test my determination.

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