Love To Disarm And Humor To Muffle

If there are two fundamental ingredients to maintain better mental health, improve relationships with others and be, in general, happier, those are love and humor.

Many times we tend to get into heated discussions with other people, to get defensive, to stress too much for a specific and temporary event, etc.

And we realize in the end, that our attitude may not have been the right one and that in the end, we have lost ourselves.

Let’s take an example of this: There are couples who tend to blame each other without ever reaching a mutual agreement, because generally, when we are “attacked” or rather, we feel attacked, we raise a barrier and try to defend ourselves so that they cannot hurt our ego.

But in reality, this is a mistake; And it is because if I defend myself with the same weapon with which the other attacked me, in the end we will create a war that is not worth it and will not lead us to anything other than to end up with a bad taste in our mouths and a good dose of “bad vibes”.

Another very clear and radical example of the use of love as a powerful weapon that disarms we have in Gandhi. He achieved the independence of India from Great Britain without firing a single shot, without aggression, simply thanks to “Ahimsa.”

What is “Ahimsa”?

Ahimsa is a strategy that consists in discovering the loving and wonderful background of the aggressive opponent.

That is, it is about giving love to the other regardless of how they are behaving with us. Remind him that he is a great person, with a good background and that we love him unconditionally, even if at that moment he does not act in the best way with us or is even being aggressive.

Ahimsa is a weapon that acts slowly but is extremely powerful. You have to persist in giving love until the other person begins to reflect on their behavior and begins to transform.

We can practice this technique in our daily lives and we will see the powerful effects that arise. We will realize how we break the schemes of others and the result is that in the end the other begins to treat us well and to bring out his inner child.

If our partner, friend or family member is very angry with us and yells at us, reproaches us, etc. The wisest thing to do is not get into that absurd fight, go over and give him a hug, a kiss or a caress.

It may be that at first he rejects her, but if we persist, without being carried away by his words or his attitude, in the end we will be able to disarm him in a radical way.

And what about humor?

On the other hand, the use of humor becomes a great buffer against any vital blow. Like love, it also improves personal relationships and makes difficult life events much more bearable.

The sense of humor makes us aware that nothing is so important and that most of the time we tremble and dramatize the events of our life and we feel very bad about it.

It is true that there are circumstances where there is no room for humor but they are a minority, and whenever possible, we have to open our minds, be more flexible and laugh at adversity.

In the first place, adversities are inevitable and we are all going to happen quite a bit throughout our lives. And secondly, because they are almost never as bad as we think, we are almost always the ones who fatten things up with our thoughts.

In addition, humor stimulates creativity and the search for solutions since it allows us to de-stress, so it helps us to solve the problematic situation, it unblocks us.

It seems very simple, but practicing humor and love in our lives is often a difficult task. The key is to persevere until you become part of us. We will become loving and laughing people and life will become much easier for us.